Mother's Day is around the corner and it’s a prime opportunity to honor the women in our lives. Some people buy one Mother’s Day card, jot a note, and send it off to mom. But what about less obvious, though equally important, women who have shaped us or our children?
Each of us know women we don’t necessarily call “mom” who deserve to be recognized for their sacrifices and gift of presence in our lives. Giving birth is not required to have a mother-heart, so let’s give a shout out to ALL the ladies who shape our families by their care and example.
Here are seven people who deserve recognition this Mother’s Day and what you can say to honor their influence and brighten their day.
We all have different relationships with our moms. Whatever the dynamic, we can recognize our mothers, while staying focused what is positive and true. Here are a few options that allow you to go deep or keep it light.
What to say:
- Share your favorite memory. Give her insight to that time with her you’ll never forget.
- Share three positive things you’ve learned from her. These can be sentimental or light-hearted. Whatever you say will communicate that she has shaped you as a human-being and you recognize her influence.
- Explain what you like most about your relationship with her. What role does she have that no one else can fill?
- Tell her what she’s taught you about being a mother. If you’re a mom too, you’ve likely had mothering moments that came from her example or advice.
- Wish her a beautiful day. For some relationships, a big gesture is simply send that card and letting her know you’re thinking of her on Mother’s Day.
Take a few moments to recognize the mom-figures who shaped your spouse. She may be like your second mother or a person you see just on the holidays. Whatever her role, she’ll appreciate knowing you’re thinking of her on Mother’s Day.
What to say:
- Mention something you’ve learned from her family traditions and dynamics.
- Acknowledge positive things you appreciate in your spouse, which you attribute to her parenting.
- Share what you’ve learned from her as a person or about being a mother.
- Simply wish her a lovely day, and let her know you’re thinking of her.
Like a Mother
How many women in your world have shaped who you are? Mother’s Day is the perfect time to encourage all the influential mom-figures you’ve looked up to over the years. This might be your favorite grandmother, aunt, friend-of-the-family, or mentor.
What to say:
- Thank her for being a positive and caring influence in your life. You could even mention she’s been “like a mother”, a second mother, a mentor to you.
- Tell her you look up to her, and list a few ways you’ve learned from her example or hope to be like her.
- Mention that her words or actions have shaped you. What is something she’s said or done that you’ll never forget?
- Simply say, “I want to honor you on Mother’s Day as an influential woman in my life. I’m forever grateful for the ways you’ve shaped me.
ALL the moms
I bet you could make a long list of all the ladies – new and seasoned moms – who deserve a standing ovation for their constant commitment to family, considering all the sacrifices and balancing acts in life. Every mom has a unique set of challenges and needs an encouraging word to remind her that she’s doing a good job, including:
Working moms. Recognize co-workers and friends who balance a career while raising little ones.
Stay-at-home moms. Honor friends who dedicate full-time energy to their family and home life.
Single moms. Applaud the strength of the single women with kids in your world.
What to say:
- Point out what you’re learning as you watch her raise her kids.
- Make a list of ways your friend is rocking her mom-role.
- For example, “You look really good in spandex and tennis shoes.” or “You’re an amazing host no-matter what your living room looks like.”
- Remind your friend of her unique gifts and characteristics – the things that are true about her as an individual, with or without children in her world.
- Tell your friend how you’ve seen her grow as a person since having kids.
- Mention the ways you connect in parenting approaches and how it gives you perspective, keeps you sane, makes you laugh, etc.
She’s a constant friend and example to your family – the one who came to your baby shower but hasn’t had her own, plays with your kids so you can go out, listens as you talk about your children, and reminds you of your identity in the midst of motherhood. If you’re a mom, you know that it takes a village to raise your child, and your friend with a mother-heart is a huge support to you.
What to say:
- Point out the ways she positively influences your children.
- Mention favorite memories your kids have with her.
- Recognize the generosity you see through her commitment to children.
- List the ways she blesses you and helps you to be a better mom.
give with joy wishes you a beautiful Mother’s Day! You have so much to give your family and community, and you deserve all the honor and encouraging words today. May you give and receive generously and with joy this Mother’s Day!