Gift Giving: I Can't Boss You, but No Gifts

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I was reading an article somewhere - an advice column. The question: Is including "no gifts please" on an invitation bad? The answer: Yes. But my answer is no and here's my why (you may have a different answer). Every celebration I have for myself or we have for our kids, we do say "we can't boss you around, but gifts aren't required..."

We say that for a few reasons. We aren't a huge toy family because we don't have the space and our daughter does prefer to play outside. She loves to color, use a toy hammer as a microphone and plays mama with her animals and dolls. That's usually my answer when people ask what to get her.

We also say that because everyone we invite over to celebrate with are usually close friends and family who already know our family and our hearts. They most likely already don't feel the pressure to go out looking for the best gifts, but if they do, we appreciate it. We aren't mad that people give gifts, it's just that we don't want gifts to be the focus or the burden. 

We try and emphasize that gift giving happens year round. We have a handful of friend and family that passed down toys or clothes and send us new stuff too. So, we make birthday about words of affirmation shared with each other - in person, FaceTime or in a card! 

How do you refocus? Start the conversations. I have told numerous people that we wouldn't mind a gift from a thrift store! There are so many almost new toys at kid's consignment shops that would make a great gift at half the cost. We don't mind, so we share that! We want others to know that all gifts - tangible and intangible, new or used are appreciated. When sending thank yous, make sure to mention the gift, but emphasize the relationship - that goes a long way! 

Here's a list of our favorite gifts/ideas for kids:

Ideas for the after party:

  • Create a coloring page with a thank you note
  • Take a picture of your child with their favorite toy to use for a thank you card
  • Do a Q & A for your child as a keepsake for friends and family

For Zayda's third birthday, we are celebrating with her friends in our backyard for some water fun! We'll have water balloon pinatas, coloring station and a water table! Simple + fun! I created two coloring pages - one for them to keep and one for Z to keep. I also designed a Q & A card that I will fill-in and share with grandparents! 

with joy,


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